New Year, New Changes

2014 has been amazing. Incredible. Once-in-a-lifetime.

We pronounced it 'Our year' in January, to remind us that it was time to focus on US and put us first in this very exciting time in our lives. And we did that - we have made so many memories together, through two weddings, exploring our new home city, time with loved ones, and endless commutes. We have indulged, and spent energy just being happy, and being us - our relationship is better because of it, and we are individually happier.

So now it's time to look ahead.

In the six months since our wedding, we've spent too much time in the car, on the train, stressing about being late in our 4-5 hours per day journeys to and from work. We've had little time for cooking, date nights, blogging, thinking - anything, really (thank goodness Sarah's mum let us revert to teenager-dom while we were staying with her and cooked, cleaned and helped us keep everything straight!). It seems we have replaced all the activities we used to enjoy with two - cuddling and junk food.

And we love it. But having no energy for anything else has meant we feel like we aren't our best - we have put on the post-wedding-fifteen (is that a thing?), our under-eye circles are dark as night, we feel sluggish and stressed. I think we've aged five years in the last year of commuting - and we want to get it all back.

So 2015 is going to be the year of our health.

Mental health. Emotional health. Physical health.

Laura has put in her notice at her job in London. She LOVES Threshold, which is really the whole reason we did this commuting business for so long, but with the new puppy coming and the plan to move up to Birmingham permanently (coupled with the realisation that taking the train daily from there would end up costing £1000 per month on travel!!! (!!!)), we knew it wasn't feasible to continue.

This is a HUGE change in our lives - as of the end of January, we are finally getting to live in the city we love so much! As she works out her notice she will be looking for a new role in Brum, and we are looking forward to not getting up at 5:30am every morning. To getting home in time for Laura to make a healthy, delicious dinner. To after supper walks with our little Bee. To gaining back interests, hobbies, everything we didn't have time for when getting home at 8:00pm each evening.

The job change will allow us to take time, and have energy, to be US again. This means time together that isn't trying to keep Sarah awake on a drive, which will improve our emotional health. A work/life balance which will improve our mental health.

And finally, the time for cooking and exercise, which will improve our physical health. Motivated by Julia who got Laura into it and has seen success for a full year, Laura is picking keto up again in January. Sarah will be cutting down and eating healthier. The new puppy will make us get outside anyway, but on top of that we plan on finding activities that will be FUN for us and get our blood pumping. We hear there's a recreational softball league in Birmingham...

2014 would be a tough year to beat, but with 2015 being our first as a family of three and with all these positive changes, we bet it'll be pretty great.

What are your plans for next year?

A Dream Come True

I had a dream - that dream was to have a puppy. I've wanted this since I was four years of age. I know this because my Mum recounts stories of how by the time I got to school I had invented imaginary dogs. I wanted a dog so bad that I spent my childhood latching on to anyone with a dog. I walked dogs for friends, I loved any extended family dog as if it was my dog staying at someone else's house - I just really wanted a dog.

As my Mum was a child-minder I was never going to be allowed a dog. I had a rabbit, Bonny, who thankfully thought he was a dog and was happy to play fetch with me but he was never the dog I wanted.

It has been said many times, not least in this blog, that I can be a bit of a 'dream killer'. While Laura dreams big, has high expectations and generally a way of making the craziest plans happen exactly as she wants them to, I like to call myself a realist. I like to think of all possible outcomes and err on the side of caution. I don't like to disappoint and I don't like to be disappointed so I protect myself by being cautious.

While I apply this theory to almost all of my life there is one thing I have always been unequivocally excited about. You guessed it - a dog!

I didn't have expectations around breed or size, I just wanted floppy ears - see our last post for how we decided on that!

But having met Bisbee when she was just 3 weeks old, I was in love. I was smitten, obsessed, over-excited, you name it - this was one dog I was dreaming big about and the cautious me was no-where to be seen. This level of excitement over-spilled into tears, waking up too excited knowing her arrival was weeks, then days away. Shopping trips specially for her, I think we shopped more for her than for our wedding holiday. We weren't excessive but with almost all puppy stuff being sooooooo cute we definitely bought more than we needed.

On the day, the roller coaster of emotions was massive. We were not unaware of the responsibility that we were taking on or the change it would bring to our life but we were unprepared for the amount of love we already had for this bundle we had only spent 2 hours with and who had no idea who we were.

I'm pretty sure when we stopped for a McDonald's breakfast on the way there and ended up sat opposite each other crying, the staff were probably like WTF crazy ladies. We pulled ourselves together though and made the last bit of our drive in a fairly sane state.

As we approached the house, hearts beating, hands clasped tight we knew we were making the right decision. The moment the door opened we were greeted by a wagging tail and plenty of licks. She was ready and we wanted to be the best puppy mummies she could ask for.

It's been a week since we picked up our bundle of joy and I can fully admit it has been harder work than I first thought. Thinking back I don't ever remember looking after a puppy, just a well trained older dog, and it has given me a huge appreciation for all other puppy owners. I have never given anything as much attention, I've never jumped up so often or talked about pee and poo, I have never spent two entire days thinking of one thing and one thing only and yet I am still so unequivocally excited to have my own dog.

We will track our progress in the blog so we can look back on how far we have come, but so far so good. It wouldn't be anywhere near as fun or rewarding or in fact possible without my team-mate, partner and all round wonderful wife. I think it is fair to say having both of us doing this makes it a little easier. This way at least it's not just the puppy getting food and sleep.

As I write this I am about to start work, Laura is in bed and after a morning feed and clear out this is what I have for company:

Life is pretty perfect right now!

Becoming A Family Of Three!

Have we mentioned our big news yet? As you know, 2014 has been an amazing year for us and it's difficult to look ahead to a fairly quiet 2015 focused on paying our families back for their contributions to our wedding and house and establishing ourselves in Birmingham full time. That is, it WAS difficult until we finally got around to making one of my life long dreams a reality........

So on Saturday we are picking up our PUPPY, a little girl named Bisbee. Our fur baby will be just under 10 weeks old and we cannot wait to bring her home. As it's all we can think about, talk about and look at we thought we would pull together this post of the journey so far.

We first met Bisbee back in October after seeing an ad on Pets4Homes. The sable offspring of a cockapoo and poodle, we fell in love at first sight.

Those ears!!

We knew we wanted a cockapoo based on feedback we had from friends, the results of this test: http://dogtime.com/quiz/dog-breed-selector....

....and a decision to comprise. I wanted a dog with floppy ears and Laura wanted a larger dog. We both wanted it to be smart and friendly and need a moderate amount of exercise. We also knew it would have to be happy on its on as well as in social situations.

Initially we wanted to look into adopting a dog from a pound / rescue home but both of us agreed that for our first dog it would be best to get one we knew the background of - including the opportunity to meet the parents and the rest of the litter. As I have never had a dog I wanted to see the temperament of the parents and the puppy nature around other dogs, and after Laura's Thailand dog bite in 2012 she is nervous around them, so we thought that knowing it from very young would reform her bond with them and her trust in dogs.

The cockapoo puppy met every need. On top of that her hypoallergenic coat makes her great to be around kids with allergies and her inquisitive nature means she should be happy to be looked after by different people if work demands mean neither of us will be at home occasionally.

This little lady is about to be engulfed in love and her arrival at home couldn't be better timed. The pile of presents for her under our tree and my parents' tree is bigger than everyone else's and I know that her cuteness is going to have everyone ready to cater to every whimper.

That said, Laura and I have been watching puppy training videos non-stop, we have our rules written out and we are ready to face the cutest puppy we've ever met without being pushovers. We just hope she's ready for us!




I can't quite believe we are on the 2 day to go countdown - these have been 9 very long weeks and I have had at least 2 melt downs worrying that I will make a terrible puppy-mum! What if I'm too strict, or not strict enough, what if she gets lonely or sick or lost - it's like waiting to have a child. The preparation - booking puppy school, finding a vet, getting insurance, the right toys and the right lead and the right car seat - there is so much to think about!

We know she is feisty, not afraid to stand up for herself and into everything - L is already one set of laces down from our last visit! Our Christmas decorations may not stand a chance. We have no doubt this puppy will bring more chaos and craziness to our life than ever before and we say bring it on! No doubt a hug with this cutie will have her forgiven in seconds!

Our last pics from the breeder - she didn't want to come in as the garden was too much fun!

And so if you follow us on Instragram or Facebook this is your 2 day warning - the puppy photos are coming! We hope you like them as much as us :)
 

We can't wait!

28th June 2014 - Our Wedding Photos - Bridal Portraits

Bam - post made it on Monday!

Had an amazing weekend with thanksgiving, showing Birmingham to a friend, putting up our Christmas decs, and lots of winter snuggling, but we will tell you about that in another post.

For now, photos! We love our Bridal portraits - we will treasure them always!

Two brides, hangin' in a field.

The mountains are where we call home

Runaway brides!

Run back brides!

We are so in love with these - they are so natural and you can see the beauty of our wedding spot so clearly - I mean, MOUNTAINS!! We struggle to pick our favs. Which do you like best?

If you haven't yet seen the others, click here to see our previous wedding photo posts!